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well, that was fun!
So I'm married now.  So's Wolfie.  I'm really digging the fact that he's married to me.

Friday was kinda busy; we had stuff to finish and then we had to go pick up the flowers -- everything was gorgeous except my headpiece.  I wanted wheat, and I wanted simple flowers, and a red ribbon to fasten it on with.  I got wheat, wrapped in red ribbon so it was utterly obscured, single delphiniums between each wheat ear, poufy little bows at the end of this thing, and raffia to tie it with.  My sister's headpiece was prettier than mine, and while I certainly don't begrudge my sister a pretty headpiece, mine should be at least as pretty.  I didn't realize until I was in the truck and driving away how much I hated it, and I had a meltdown on the phone at my mom's house with the florist.  My aunt, bless her, came over to the house, picked up my sad, sad headpiece and took it back to the florist, who fixed it and had it ready for her to bring up to me on Saturday.

The rehearsal never really happened -- people got lost, people got caught in traffic, etc, so we skipped it and went straight to the food.  The dinner was marvelous; Elm City Brewing Company makes really good beer and really big onion rings.  They're more like onion donuts.  Sis loved her bridesmaid's gift: she's been bugging me for over a year that I wouldn't let her wear a tiara in the wedding, so I bought one for her, and it looks fabulous on her.  (Looks pretty neat on Wolfie, too -- he tried it on today.)  We gave Wolfie's brother a set of pewter goblets, and engraved silver albums for our parents, photos to come later.

Saturday, our wedding day, started off absolutely lousy -- it was pouring down rain.  I'd slept badly because the bed in our room in the Keene Best Western was hard as  damned rock, plus I'd put my hair up in curlers before I went to bed and tied a bandana over my head so they wouldn't get messed up and it was virtually impossible to get comfy except on my back, and according to Wolfie I was snoring like an adenoidal camel (he didn't have earplugs, so he slept like shit, too), and the bandana kept my body heat in so I was too warm, and and and... I was not in a good mood when I got up.  We stopped off at Shaw's and Wal-Mart to pick up a couple of needful items and zoomed up to the Orchard.  Oh, and as soon as I stepped out into the rain my pretty curled hair collapsed.  Poop.

So I had a cup of coffee at the lodge, in an attempt to wake up, and as the day went on, I was getting a worse and worse headache and I wasn't any more awake -- come to find out, it was decaf.  Are they trying to poison me?  I don't drink coffee for the taste, I drink it for the caffeine!  So I took some ibuprofen for the headache that was making my eyes ache, which helped, and we started the mad scramble to get everything done before people started showing up -- setting up the reception room, the food, drink, and tent for the picnic (the tent never got used), practicing the sword exchange so we wouldn't lop off anyone's ears, ironing garb, getting dressed (it was weird getting dressed alone, but let's face it, there's not a great deal to putting on Viking clothing).  My headpiece showed up in plenty of time, and it was gorgeous -- they added more flowers, made the wheat a feature, gave me ribbon to tie it with instead of that awful raffia (like I want bloody hay trailing down the back of my head), and generally made it a $55 headpiece.  What I had before was not a $55 headpiece, it was a sorry excuse for for a child's toy of a headpiece.

So we headed out to the site on time, got everyone there and formed up, and the procession was nifty.  Ernie (our officiant) introduced the wedding party, and introduced my sister and hascouf as my sister and brother, which momentarily confused my parents, but I explained later that he's my household brother.  Everyone remembered their lines, and there was some snickering at the reading of the dowry, but what most people didn't realize is that by Viking standards, with that dowry (I'll post it later), I am a very wealthy woman. 

The sword exchange was really cool; went off without a hitch, all ears intact.  I'm thinking about getting "Tasha gave me to Wolfie" (or "Bera gave me to Vigolfr") engraved on the hilt of one of them, in runes.  We held his sword between us, point up, as we exchanged our vows to one another.

The vows were amazing.  Neither of us wrote anything down, we just spoke from the heart.  I told him that I'm lucky, because I get to spend all my days and nights with him, that his generosity and nobility of spirit humble me, that he has taught me so much, and that I am honored and proud to be his wife.  (I wish I'd added that with him, I get to be the person I was always meant to be, but I think he knows that.)  He said that he loves me, that I've seen him at his worst, that from here on in, it will only get better and better, and that he is proud to be my husband. 

I ganked a bit from the ceremony of a girl on antibride, where she had the rings passed through the audience for their blessing; everyone thought that was really lovely (we played "You Belong To Me" from Shrek while it was going on).  Then we exchanged rings, saying, "Take this ring and remember with love and joy the oaths we have sworn this day.  You are my (husband/wife), and I will always be your loving (wife/husband)."  Then Ernie made the pronouncement, and told Wolfie to kiss me, which he did and that was the transformative moment I'd been waiting for.  I mean, his kisses always make me squidgy inside, but that kiss... woohoo... that was a kiss.

It was so short, and so very cool.  The rest of the afternoon was spent eating and chatting and flitting about and eating some more.  Mom and her friend M and my MIL did a fabulous job with the picnic: three different kinds of sandwiches, cheese and crackers, cookies and such, and then we moved up to the Orchard Room for dinner.  We had pasta salad, green salad, fruit salad (in a nifty cut-out watermelon shaped sort of like a Viking longship!), garlic mashed potatoes, carrots, rolls (the caterer baked my mom's recipe!), roast beef, and marinated Portobello mushrooms for the vegetarians. Then the wedding cake (which my mom made) was either chocolate-Chambord with seedless raspbery jam filling or vanilla cake with raspberry filling, and people were coming back for seconds of everything!

When Wolfie fed me my first bite, I told everyone, "Ooh, y'all ain't gettin' any, we're taking the cake and leaving!" It was soooo good! The caterer cut my top tier, but Mom said she'd bake me another one for my anniversary if I bought the Chambord. Sounds fair to me!  And Ernie gave us a bottle on Moniac Mead, fom Inverness Castle -- you can't get this stuff in the US.  You can barely get it in Scotland.  It's absolutely the best mead I've ever had.  Smooth, but warming, and sweet and... mmm. Yum.  Wolfie and I are actually having a "honey moon" -- we've decided to share a glass of a mead every night for a full month.  He brought it up to me just now.  He can't get the bottle we were going to drink from open just now, so we had another nip of the good stuff.  Yum.  Every marriage should start so sweetly.

I'm even going to share some of what happened on the wedding night: we got to the hotel (Best Western in Fitchburg -- MUCH nicer than Keene), at about 10, and as usual, I popped on the TV for noise.  They had Cartoon Network!  We'd just missed room service (they stop serving at 10), so we called up the Uno's down Rte 2, ordered some nibblies, found a 24 hour CVS so we could get some sodas and earplugs for Wolfie, and zoomed back to the hotel in time to watch Wolf's Rain, Witch Hunter Robin, and part of Cowboy Bebop while eating onion petals, chicken fingers, and french fries.  The rest was pretty conventional wedding night stuff, but the beginning was so typically us that I had to tell.

It's been an amazing weekend.  The skies cleared, but I think we got some nifty posed shots with the moody mountains in the background, the afternoon was marvelous, everyone said our ceremony was wonderful, everyone looked fabulous in their garb (even the people for whom it was a costume), the food was phenomenal (and I got to eat it!  And I went back for seconds!), and best of all, I'm married to the only man on earth for me.  Life is good.

i feel: ecstatic ecstatic

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esmerel From: esmerel Date: June 27th, 2004 09:54 pm (UTC) (base camp)
kestrel127 From: kestrel127 Date: June 27th, 2004 11:56 pm (UTC) (base camp)

You're married! Congrats and such!

tashabear From: tashabear Date: June 28th, 2004 12:10 am (UTC) (base camp)
As soon as I get them from my uncle (and whoever else took digital photos)!
2stars4arms From: 2stars4arms Date: June 28th, 2004 12:04 am (UTC) (base camp)
Congratulations, tashabear! I wish you and Wolfie much happiness. :D
feroluce From: feroluce Date: June 28th, 2004 12:24 am (UTC) (base camp)
i love the bit you said about how "every marriage should start so sweet".. that's a beautiful sentiment.

oh, and the adult swim and eats? i can completely picture my boyfriend and i doing exactly the same if we were to ever do the... wedding thing. our entire relationship is built around starbucks and adult swim, pretty much. hehe.

From: nutter4 Date: June 28th, 2004 01:21 am (UTC) (base camp)
Congratulations! I'm glad it all went well for you both.
amarins From: amarins Date: June 28th, 2004 03:05 am (UTC) (base camp)
congratulations! It sounds like you had a very unique and special wedding.
Great that it all worked out after so much planning!
goingdriftless From: goingdriftless Date: June 28th, 2004 03:50 am (UTC) (base camp)
Big big big congrats! I am so very happy for you!
rani23 From: rani23 Date: June 28th, 2004 04:53 am (UTC) (base camp)
Congratulations!!!! It sounds perfect!
caitrin From: caitrin Date: June 28th, 2004 05:56 am (UTC) (base camp)
ladymorgaine From: ladymorgaine Date: June 28th, 2004 06:19 am (UTC) (base camp)
Congrats to you and your HUSBAND! Doesn't that just sound wonderful? ;)

Sounds like it was fabulous, and all your hard work paid off. Thanks for sharing the process with us.

I can't wait to see pictures!
tashabear From: tashabear Date: June 28th, 2004 08:26 am (UTC) (base camp)
It's still a little surreal. I think that it'll really sink in when we get the certificate back from the town clerk and I can go change my name. But both my parents did say that referring to the other as husband and wife was weird for a little while. Wonderful, but weird.
cellio From: cellio Date: June 28th, 2004 08:18 am (UTC) (base camp)
Congratulations! I'm glad the day improved. :-)
From: reasdream Date: June 28th, 2004 08:36 am (UTC) (base camp)
*kermit the frog type arms and cheers* Yaaaaaaaaaay!!!!!!!

Congrats to you and your new husband! I'm glad that the day got good, and yay for good food and MANY HUGS!

(and I wanna see the pictures, too)
tashabear From: tashabear Date: June 28th, 2004 08:44 am (UTC) (base camp)
Hah! I did that between the smooch and the recessional! (Which was "Accidentally In Love" from Shrek 2, BTW; it was a very Shrek sort of ceremony.)
sueg From: sueg Date: June 28th, 2004 09:16 am (UTC) (base camp)
Congratulations! That was a great post. I VERY much look forward to seeing some photos when you get them posted!
friscokitty From: friscokitty Date: June 28th, 2004 01:32 pm (UTC) (base camp)
My heartiest congratulations to you both!!!!
emmacrew From: emmacrew Date: June 28th, 2004 02:10 pm (UTC) (base camp)

Felicitations to you both. I too look forward to the pictures!
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