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tashabear
tashabear
can i go home now?
I wish I had something happy to write about, but I don't. Yesterday morning, my tentmate Erika told me that her husband was killed in Iraq the night before by an improvised explosive device. He was 28. She's 25. They'd been married less than 2 years, and had been apart for most of that, first because of her deployment and then because of his.

Erika is one of the most remarkable people I've ever met. She's a good officer and a wonderful person, and it is my privilege to call her friend. I had the day off yesterday and was able to stay with her while she packed to go home on emergency leave so she could bury her husband. All the other women in the tent (all 3 of us) are married as well, and I think we see ourselves in her. My husband is the only one safely at home, but even then I worry.

Add this to the death of one of my fellow officers here on post this week (I think it's still under investigation), and liamstliam's adventures in chemistry, and it's been a very hard week.

On a more positive note, one of my remaining tentmates is also a knitter, another woman who lives nearby is a crocheter, and my other tentmate wants to learn, so I think that we might have a Camp Victory Stitch n Bitch before too long.

i feel: sad sad

12 trips or shoot the rapids
Comments
From: nutter4 Date: November 4th, 2005 10:46 am (UTC) (base camp)
*hugs*

I don't really know what to say. Sudden deaths 'close up' are distressing even if it's someone you don't know well, and sometimes the business of life seems to have no rhyme or reason to it. I'm glad you're getting the knitting thing going though - the more friends the better, in a bad situation.

*hugs again*
alphaggek From: alphaggek Date: November 4th, 2005 12:53 pm (UTC) (base camp)
**********BIG HUGS**********
beerhorse From: beerhorse Date: November 4th, 2005 01:00 pm (UTC) (base camp)
*HUGS* I'm really sorry Diane. Can I just say I can't wait for you to come home? There are so many things I want to do, though I know you'll be super busy catching up with your hubby and family. As I was Boot Scoot Boogy'n last night I had a thought, "Wouldn't it be fun if Diane and I led a country line dance class at Furfright next year?"

:)
Keep safe and know that we all are thinking about you.
trinker From: trinker Date: November 4th, 2005 01:00 pm (UTC) (base camp)
If you feel it's appropriate, please let Erika know that an utter stranger to you has heard about her loss now and flutters helpless hands in her direction. I'd wish her to find comfort, or some measure of peace, but I don't know if that's even possible in her situation.

Stopping now before I intrude with a political rant.
points From: points Date: November 4th, 2005 02:15 pm (UTC) (base camp)
I'll send more yarn for you all. Drop me an email and let me know what kinds to get?
From: reasdream Date: November 4th, 2005 03:16 pm (UTC) (base camp)
ditto. if you tell me what you want, I'll send some. :)
spunkywulf From: spunkywulf Date: November 4th, 2005 02:37 pm (UTC) (base camp)
Oh God I'm so sorry to hear that. I felt like crying. I wish I had something constructive to say to you. I really do. All I can do is wish I could comfort you, and especially Erika. Please tell her that your friends send their support, even though she doesn't know us. *hugs you from afar*
tashabear From: tashabear Date: November 4th, 2005 02:40 pm (UTC) (base camp)
She's left already. I'm hoping that she's home by now -- should be, unless she had a long layover in Europe. But thanks.
cellio From: cellio Date: November 4th, 2005 03:49 pm (UTC) (base camp)
Aw, damn. I'm sorry.
jaynefury From: jaynefury Date: November 4th, 2005 03:49 pm (UTC) (base camp)
*hugs* I cannot ever imagine what you are experiencing. Thank you for allowing me to visit and at least glimpse. I can only offer prayers.

Will you need yarn or other supplies for the Stitch n Bitch? Make a post if you do so that those of us that can, will send your group some lovely bits.
ciorstan From: ciorstan Date: November 4th, 2005 10:14 pm (UTC) (base camp)
Absolutely. And I have access to two high-falutin' Yarn Pron-type stores, and I'd be glad to fetch and ship.

Us fiber snobs need to stick together.
ladymorgaine From: ladymorgaine Date: November 5th, 2005 06:56 am (UTC) (base camp)
More HUGS. We want you to come home too.
12 trips or shoot the rapids