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tashabear
tashabear
because it needs to be said...
"deserve" and "need" are not the same things.  Having nicer furniture or different paint on your walls are not something you have to deserve.  You want them, it will make you feel better in your space.  Other than the money, you don't have to do anything to earn or deserve them.

Need is a different matter.  I can't address that.  But it makes me feel sad to hear you say you don't "deserve" something so simple.

You are not stupid to want better, dearest.  And just because you might not be able to paint now, or because your bedroom is sometimes messy, is no reason to beat yourself up so hard.

Small steps, sweetie.  Small steps.

i feel: frustrated frustrated

5 trips or shoot the rapids
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emmacrew From: emmacrew Date: June 14th, 2006 02:18 am (UTC) (base camp)
Yes. You said what I would have had I been home a couple of hours ago.
goingdriftless From: goingdriftless Date: June 14th, 2006 07:34 am (UTC) (base camp)
I needed to hear that. Thanks.
From: (Anonymous) Date: June 14th, 2006 08:03 am (UTC) (base camp)
"If you can't take care of them, you don't deserve to have nice things." "Do you think we're made of money?"

The nasty little voices of one's parents live for a long time in the animal-brain.
tashabear From: tashabear Date: June 14th, 2006 09:11 am (UTC) (base camp)
Yes, they do, but sometimes they can be drowned out by the external voices of reason.
baronessmartha From: baronessmartha Date: June 14th, 2006 08:50 am (UTC) (base camp)
well said, hopefully well heard
5 trips or shoot the rapids